Not a few parents are aware of changes in behavior in children when they are at a certain age range, or when growing up. Children become more likely to argue with parents or even lie. If the cause is not immediately identified, deviant behavior in children can lead to juvenile delinquency or crime in adulthood.
According to the Big Indonesian Dictionary, deviant behavior is the response, actions, or behavior of a person to the environment that is contrary to the laws and norms that exist in society. Deviant behavior is also known as social deviation and the culprit is called deviant. Examples of deviant behavior in children include lying, cheating, and stealing.
A study found that deviant behavior develops since the child is very young, and is closely related to the closeness of children with parents. The magnitude of this comparison is greater than the deviant behavior that develops in adulthood. In addition to age and parental factors, there are also other factors that cause children to have deviant behavior, namely the social environment.
The researchers also found a relationship between the intelligence of children and parents, and parental knowledge is very influential on cognitive impulsivity and the development of deviant behavior in children. Other studies mention parenting styles and good relationships between parents and children have a positive impact on children who like to consume alcoholic beverages, marijuana, and commit crimes. Then what is the child's behavior that is recommended to watch out for early on and how do parents handle it?
Deviant Behavior in Children and How to Overcome It
You may already be aware of and disturbed by changes in children's behavior that seems to have become his new habit. For example disturbing other people or not paying attention when you are talking to other people. Even though it might make you "exasperated", upset and tired, but you should not give up or ignore this one's behavior. If left unchecked, children will not learn to be sensitive, considerate, and considerate of others. The child will also feel the need to get constant attention and not have the ability to tolerate frustration.
All you need to do is teach him to be quiet or not disturb when you are talking, then ask him to play with the toys that you have prepared for him. If he is holding your arm while you are talking, point to a chair or rung and ask him to wait quietly until you finish talking. After that, tell him that he will not get his request because it has disturbed you to talk.
Letting your child not listen when you ask him to do something can also make him a child who likes to challenge and control everything. The way to stop this behavior from becoming a habit is to approach him, say his name, look him in the eye, until he returns your gaze and then say that he must do what you ask and wait for him to answer. If your child still doesn't listen, then you can apply the consequences. For example he will lose the schedule to watch the film for the day.
If the child starts beating or playing too rough with his friend, or even more subtle aggressive actions such as pinching or pushing his sibling, immediately intervene. This behavior can develop into a rooted habit at the age of 8 years. Pull the child aside and tell him that it hurts and isn't allowed, then ask how he feels if it happens to him.
Help him convey his feelings and practice what he can say if he feels angry or wants a turn to play. Remind him before the next play and end the game if he does it again.
Children who have behavioral disorders in school usually have strong feelings and need help to channel those feelings. There could also be something in the school that bothers him, for example a friend who abused him or mocked him. Children are indeed more sensitive than you think, and he constantly looks for ways to get out what he feels. He can easily get angry just because of simple things, for example you do not use eggs for lunch.
All you can do is try asking or letting her cry, because that's the only way they know to vent feelings that might not be related to the lunch menu. Also spend time with your child, for example hugging or playing in bed before he gets ready for school. Listen to the child and use and use this time to find out what is troubling, or ask how his days are overall.
Generally deviant behavior in children is a reflection of parenting and psychological conditions of children. No matter how good the child's upbringing and relationships with parents, many factors can trigger children to deviate behavior. This factor is mainly triggered by stress in children or there are other problems he feels. Parents need to be sensitive and care for children and their feelings.
As a parent, you can also enrich yourself with a variety of childcare information that can be applied at home. Remember that children's growth and development starts at home and the active role of parents is very big impact on the future of the child and the people around him. If you realize there is a deviant behavior in children, do not hesitate to consult an expert, namely a child psychiatrist or psychologist.
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